Being Clean
Clean – Dirty Continuum
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When the client presents a desired outcome for change, the facilitator can choose to be: |
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cleanest |
cleaner |
cleanish |
dirtyish |
dirtier |
dirtiest |
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by deciding to |
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make no attempt to affect the client in any way |
facilitate client to self-model so that home-grown changes emerge from client’s own map |
model the client’s map then offer a range of suggestions from various maps that client can choose from |
model the client’s map
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seek to impose suggestion from facilitator’s map on to client’s map |
force client to comply with facilitator’s suggestions |
Staying Clean
There are three fundamental parts to being clean:
Listening
The facilitator listens to what the client says and also pays attention to non-verbal behaviour (gestures, line-of-sight, etc) and voice tone, emphasis, skin tone, etc.
This kind of listening involves curiosity, rather than listening just long enough to leap to a conclusion.
It also allows the client to enjoy periods of silence for thinking without being interrupted.
Using the Other Person’s Words
Using the client’s own words when describing their experience helps them to stay in touch with their own experience.
It also directs their attention to a particular aspect of their experience, preparing the way for a clean question.
Asking Clean Questions
Clean questions request the client to consider particular aspects of their experience, without making assumptions as to the outcome of that consideration and without putting in any of the facilitator’s own experiences.
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